When a loved one dies, and the task of planning a cremation funeral is up to you, you certainly go into it with every intention of creating a lasting memory that will honor and pay tribute to your lost friend or family member. However, as we become inundated with details, sometimes we have a hard time keeping up with everything and or initial goals get lost along the way. Here are some tips for creating a memorable cremation funeral.
Ask for Help
Remember that you aren’t alone in your grief or your planning. This burden does not have to be your own and it’s ok to ask for help. In times of need such as this, many of your close friends will gladly pitch in to offer you support in any way they can. When you ask friends or family members for help, you’ll be able to focus on the decisions and details you think would be most important to the deceased and they can focus on some of the larger tasks such as getting the information out to the public so that they know when the services will be.
Use the Buddy System When Making Decisions
When you visit the funeral home to start making the decisions regarding the cremation funeral, bring a friend with you who is not as emotionally distraught to help you make clear decisions. Oftentimes, grieving families are so overcome by their emotions that they let the funeral director make all of the decisions, which can lead to a less personal cremation funeral and a bigger bill. Bringing someone with a clearer head will help you stay on task and the end result will be much closer to something you think your loved one would have wanted.
Follow Your Heart
You may feel overwrought with emotions in your time of grief, but remember to listen to your heart. Your instincts will likely still be right, even while you are experiencing a myriad of other emotions while planning a cremation funeral. Stop and check in with yourself from time to time and ask if you are making the right decisions. Your heart will know the answer.
Keep Your Loved One in Mind
Over everything else, remember that this cremation funeral is about your loved one and not about anyone else. When you are making decisions, make sure to ask whether this is something the deceased would want or whether it’s something that is being done for you or another member of the family. Don’t let yourself get pressured into making decisions that your loved one wouldn’t want.
Melody Jamali is the Founder and President of (Une Belle Vie), a Colorado company dedicated to bringing choice of cremation to public light. Their company offers the widest selection in decorative urns for cremation and includes a wide collection of resources designed to help families and friends in their time of need. From tool for the grieving to informative articles about planning, support and other uplifting thoughts, Une Belle Vie is a company dedicated to helping your celebrate the life of the one you love – on your terms.