The last thing you want to do after you hold a memorial or funeral service is sit down and write thank you notes to all of the people who generously donated to help you out in your need. It’s not that you’re ungrateful, but you are more than likely completely exhausted and want time to let the realty of the loss of a loved one set in. So how can you accomplish the task of genuinely thanking your friends and family for their support without it turning into yet another task you just have get out of the way?
Save the cards.
Saving all the sympathy cards and cards attached to gifts and floral arrangements can help you make a list of the people you want to thank in the future, rather than trying to remember each and every person that helped out with the funeral at a later date. Also have a friend or other family member write down the names of people who helped with food or other donations at the memorial service or wake.
Pare down your list.
You don’t have to respond to each sympathy card with a thank you note. Instead, respond to the people who sent flowers or helped out by providing food or other items for the funeral or your family in their time of need. Remember, your close friends understand you are mourning the loss of a loved one, so you don’t need to send them a card. You can simply tell them.
Write a few each day.
Don’t try and tackle writing all of your thank you cards at once. The task will become completely overwhelming and then they may never get done. Instead, sit down and write three or four thank you’s a day and watch your list of names slowly get smaller and smaller.
Get preprinted cards.
There’s no rule that says you have to write personalized thank you’s on each card. Get thank you cards preprinted and save yourself the time and energy of having to write a personal note on each card.
Ask for help.
Your friends and family are here to help you in your time of need. There’s no reason for you to have to suffer more if you don’t feel up to the task of writing thank you notes yourself. Ask a friend to come keep you company and you can handle the notes together or they can help you send the cards out on your behalf.